Two days ago we celebrated our 20 weeks together, our 5 months anniversary.

We’ve grown even closer and more loving than ever, if only we’re become even stickier to each other.

And that’s a shame (in a way) because I’ve now found work and have less time to spend with her as much as I want to…

And in case you’re wondering, no. We still have not met.

We will be meeting on my birthday which is aptly termed the Day Of Destiny, and in case you haven’t noticed there’s a little counter on the middle of my right toolbar. It currently says 2 months, 2 weeks and 6 days…

That’s around 81 days in case you’re wondering.
Take that away from 223 days and we’ve known each other for 142 days now.

I don’t know what else to update to my friends and readers here, she’s become so much of a part of my life now after all. We talk to each other over the phone everyday, Whats App each other when we’re free and are deeply in love with each other.

Perhaps that sums it up in one sentence eh?

In any case, all is going on well in my life now and I hope it’s going on well for you too..~

Live well, and life to the fullest~

Aaron Peng

Hi all,

If you’re a regular visitor to my blog, you’ll realize that the number of entries have been dropping quite significantly.

I’ve been pretty busy meeting friends and gaming (Persona 3 Portable has replaced Final Fantasy 13) among others.

All these you should already know, but you probably don’t know the amount of time I spend talking to my wifey, and the 2 very bad quarrels we had the past 3 weeks.

Without going into too much details, I hope that we’ve grown a lot closer and stronger as a result of our quarrels… for a fact though I know that we’ve both learnt a lot more about being in a relationship than being alone..~

What most of you do not know however, is that I’ve just joined a start-up company with my friend. My partners and I are intending to open a one-stop Japan portal which should be out in mid-october.

We’ve talked a lot, and realised that there’s really a lot of stuff to do to say the least.

It’s all very overwhelming at times when I think about, but this is a perfect chance for me to use all the skills I learnt through my various events I attended as a blogger, as well as my PR skills and what little I know about social media.

How often do you get a chance to do what you like, and also what you’re good at?

You can tell I’m really excited by this, so my friends and colleagues, if I’m spending less time with you- its not because I want to, but because I need to start focusing on my work.

Forgive me for not being as updated as I would like to be in your lives, but know that you all still mean a lot to me and we can still stay in touch, just less so.

I’m still trying to get all my affairs in order, charting everything into 1 hour blocks, actually waking up early, etc~ But it’ll take some time for me to get used to it, and until then I may still be a bit zombified or slow so forgive me if I make any mistakes..~

I’m sure this will be a good experience for me in every sense.

So wish me an abundance of luck, boundless energy and creativity, and the willpower to never give up.

And I hope that you too, will grow in wisdom and strength together with me.

Aaron Peng

Today marks the 16 weeks since we met in Audition.

Alot has happened since we met, too much to say actually…

It feels like we’ve been together for much longer than 4 months, and I think I know why.

Assuming that a normal couple meets once a week and chat on the phone for a while every day, they’re going to spend about 10-12 hours together a week. That adds up to around 50 hours a month.

Up to date we’ve spent close to 500-600 hours together by now. 500/50 is 10, and 600/50 is 12. In couple terms, that would mean we have been together for some 10 – 12 months by now.

So if anyone asks me if its too soon that I want to marry her…
I’ll say no, because we’ve been together for long enough.

And more importantly…
I have found the one that fits everything I’m looking for.
And I know there will never be another like my wifey…

All the emotions I’ve been through in the past 4 months had made me more alive than the past 25+ years combined…

All the laughter, tears, and other emotions that I’ve experienced pales in comparison to the time we have shared together…

And since last week, when I finally realised how much she means to me and how much I can’t lose her..

Suffice to say my life would be very very different without her in it.
And I don’t think I’ll like how that turns out.

There are lots more to say, but I don’t want to bore any of you with all the details.

I hope that one day you too will find what I did…
Aaron

There are many things I learnt from this single event that happened yesterday which lasted for some 16 hours that I would like to share- hopefully you can and will learn from what happened to me and prevent it from happening in your own relationship.

16 hours may seem like a short time to most people, after all it’s barely less than a day.

Yet these 16 hours has let me experience emotions I thought I never have to face- sadness, disappointment, fear of losing everything, stupidity, fatigue and so much more.

I laid around in bed from 3 to 6+am, trying to think of how and why things happened the way it did, and on hindsight all the signs were there.

Which begs the question- how stupid am I not to have noticed?

I’ve been living on autopilot the past few weeks, saying everything that’s on my mind before thinking. While that hasn’t been a big problem so far (or so I thought),

I ended up hurting the person I love more than life itself over and over again…
What’s worse is that I didn’t even see it. Had I did, I would never have let things get so far, and let it cumulate into what happened this morning.

I said things I should’ve have for some 15 minutes, and all the past hurts surfaced to end up in a massive explosion of emotions…~

I hope the same will not happen to you, do read through and see if some of these factors are familiar to you.

What I learnt-

1) Never to speak without thinking.
This is important. As humans, we have the ability to think and we often end up not using this ability that has been given to us.

Children speak what’s on their minds and its okay because they’re none the wiser- they don’t really know how to discern between right and wrong.

Yet for adults who have gone through so many experiences and with a much more (supposedly) mature brain, we’re supposed to do much better than children.
So always think before you speak. Especially if it’s things you’re not sure would harm the other person when it comes out of your mouth.

2) Read and identify the signs.
Read and identify signs of things that could be going wrong in your relationship. Words like ‘hurt’, ‘sad’, ‘disappointed’, ‘angry’ and other negative words are usually clear signs that something is wrong or going to be.

Don’t just ignore it when it happens (unless it occurs on a daily basis in which the urgency is even more apparent) and DO something. These things can fester and grow out of proportion very fast and usually erupts without you knowing or noticing.

3) Don’t take things for granted.
Somehow along the way, things seemed to plateau and I took the fact that she loves me and would do anything for me into granted. Not in the way that you think, but in a certain perspective that’s exactly what it means.

Instead, be grateful everyday that you have someone who loves you, and to love in return. It’s a lot easier to be alone yes, but without anyone to share the joys and tears with, things just don’t seem as important… to me anyways…

There are more things of course, but if you can truly takeaway the meaning of these 3 factors… I’m sure you’ll be a lot better off in the relationship…

One last thing, a relationship is more than just about you. Always spare a thought about the other party too..~

Until next time… and to more happy posts ahead…~

Hi guys its me!

I realised its been some time since my last post, and would just like to update everyone a bit.

I’ve been recovering nicely, and has managed to up my swimming to 30 laps at one go, taking about an hour+ since the first and last two laps are for warming up and cooling down.

I haven’t swam more than 2 times in a week though, due to the unpredictable weather.

And despite the positive interview a week+ ago, I haven’t received any calls from them as of yet, so I’m still looking for a job.

If you have any suitable Public Relations or writing jobs, feel free to drop me a sms or something. You know how people-centric I can be together with my vast experience

Today also marks the 3 months since I met my wifey. And we’re still as lovey as ever (if not more). Despite my trying to end our chats earlier so that I can wake up earlier, it hasn’t really been working so far.

We end our chats earlier, and end up chatting in WA instead =_=”‘

Ah well, its not like I have anything on the next day usually, so its not a big problem. And I do like spending time with her… so I guess its win-win

I just attended a wine-tasting event yesterday, and will be attending a wedding tomorrow.

Will update everyone with details and pictures soon, so stay tuned!

Today marks the 10th week that my wifey and I has been together.

I’m guessing that most of you had doubts about us lasting this long, and probably think that our feelings for each other would have faded by now.

Thankfully, that’s not the case and I still love her more and more each day, though I wonder sometimes how it’s possible.

As some of you know, I’ve been writing a weekly memoir to her.

Today I want to share with you a few parts of it, since it’s not that lovey-dovey and also because it’s something I want everyone to think about…

I walk around almost every other day, and I see people …
Most of them are doing the same thing every day, stuck in a routine.

They believe that happiness is when they earn enough money, to get their car, their house, their next gadget.

I don’t doubt that material things are important, as they keep us temporarily satisfied, sort of like a short term goal…

But at the end of it all, when they earn more and more, and their materials possessions grow, they’ll find that they need an even bigger and expensive thing in their life to be happy. Eventually though they’ll start feeling empty, because they know that it isn’t what they want.

I’m pretty much that’s one of the major reasons for mid-life crises, which I’m sure will not happen to me.

I’m sure no one started out this way though. It didn’t use to be important how much money he or she makes, and whether I’m making more.

But somehow along the way, things started to change.

People forgot that what matters most in life is happiness, and not money or anything else.

Or they believe that happiness can be found in the pursuit of money and other pleasures or vices in life. Smoking, drinking, gambling… many of them live in the moment or for their next paychecks, and I feel that it’s really sad.

Of course, many are also searching for love, but some of their conceptions of love have been so twisted by movies, books and dramas that they are too surreal and probably impossible to find in real life.

I wouldn’t mind going on a horse carriage to pick up a girl from Orchard road, but for that amount of money and trouble I have to go through, she had better be worth it!

Most of them however, are not… and that’s the sad part.

Hence I always feel comforted when I remember that I have found who I’m searching for and that there’s no need to look anymore.

Some people spend their entire lives looking, only to realize that the person they had been looking for all their life has appeared in their life a long time ago and that he or she has already moved on.

Or they remember the various chances they had with many people … the various opportunities that they had missed, and never will get back.

Or the saddest part is that when they realize that their expectations all along were too unrealistic and impractical, and that they were never going to achieve it.

At this point of my post I’m going to ask you.

Do you know what you’re doing at this point of your life?
Is it what you want to be doing for the rest of your life?
Is there something else you would rather do?

And what’s stopping you?

I’m glad to say that I found the love of my life, partly because I never stopped looking, and mainly because I never stopped believing, and never stopped improving.

Never stopped looking and believing that one day I will find the person to make me truly happy everyday.

Never stopped improving because I know that if it would mean nothing if I found her and couldn’t capture her heart.

I believe that everyone can find happiness and love.

It’s just a matter of whether you know what you’re looking for, whether your expectations are practical, and how much effort you’re going to put into it.

I found my wifey, but if I didn’t go through everything I did in my life before meeting her, if I was the same person I was 2 years ago (before I decided that I wanted to improve myself to be the person I am today), that would have meant nothing.

And I’ll still be searching for the one, like many of my readers out there.

I hope this post has inspired you to think of what you’re doing, where you are in your life, and what steps you’ll be taking in the future.

With that, I’m going to end my post with this last sentence…

Good luck, and may the pursuit of your happiness be a life changing experience.

Today marks 2 months since we’ve been a couple in AuditionSEA (or met). 7 weeks since we’ve been married, and also the first day since we verbally declared our love for each other.

I just spent some 3+ hours in the airport, typing an email to her, and also my 8th week memoir.

Yes, besides emailing her every day (which started from the day she left for her 3 weeks trip to US), I also write a weekly memoir in which I consolidate the ways she has changed me, and also profess my love for her.

We started chatting with each other a week ago (last Friday to be exact), and we never quite stopped. Thursday night we chatted for 5 hours, and yesterday we did another 4.

Not to mention when I wake up we’ll be playing word with friends (scrabble on the iPhone) and Whatsapp-ing each other (sorta like msn for iPhone).

I guess my entire life now sort of revolves around her, and her around mine.
I never expected this to happen to me, nor did I ever think that I’ll even find someone like her.

After writing more than 2.6 thousand words in the past few hours… There’s nothing more to say except that our love is going on very strongly and that we’re truly walking on the road less travelled.

How many people do you know waits 223 days to meet up, and share so many things in common anyway?

Well my netbook is making beeping noises and its going out of batt. So I’m going to leave it at that.

To conclude, I just want to say that I’ve found my happiness and my reason for living, and I hope that one day all my readers will do the same too.

Never stop believing, never stop looking…
And one day you will find it.